by Susan Kapatoes, MHA,CPC
After working a full day, I typically feel the need to recharge and refresh my creativity reservoir. I love what I do as a life coach, author, and healer, but it is imperative that I keep myself energized and balanced so I am able to provide an optimal experience for my clients. My favorite way to reinvigorate is to venture into my meditation room where I can completely relax and melt into the presence of my right brain.
As I enter the sacred space, the first thing I do is turn on my Rose Quartz lamp. The soft light emanating from the lamp is calming and soothing to all my senses. I feel comforted by the pink glow that imbues the atmosphere with an other-worldly peace. As I lay down into a comfortable position, I breathe a sigh of relief as I allow the tension in my body to simply drift away. It feels wonderful to be present in this space of harmony.
Days later, due to the expansion of my heart’s energy field, I notice that my interactions with family members and acquaintances have taken on a new flavor. I have more patience when speaking with them. It is easier to express how I feel because I am reacting less and responding with more conscious intent. I have developed these qualities over time, but Rose Quartz has played a factor in helping to cultivate these subtle personality traits.
I have been using Rose Quartz since 2004, and one might think that a person could become immune to a crystal’s impact and presence after the passage of multiple years. But in reality, the exact opposite has been true. Over time, I have developed a deeper respect for rose quartz and have become more sensitive to its powerful vibrations.
To this day, I am still amazed at the transformative effects that rose quartz has upon the environment and my psychological countenance. Mother Nature provides a storehouse of potential remedies that can aid both physical ailments and those of a non-physical character. The healing power of rose quartz helps to heal the latter. Its beautiful energy will aid the emotional aspects of the human heart, especially those concerning unconditional love.
Various properties have been attributed to Rose Quartz which have been documented by diversified sources. I have highlighted three of these qualities here: unconditional love, emotional healing, and a sense of calmness and centeredness.
Unconditional Love: The delightful Rose Quartz, with its gentle pink essence, is a stone of the heart, a crystal of unconditional love. Rose Quartz reawakens the heart to its own innate love and that of a higher divine love. It helps one to foster self-love and truly give and receive love from others.
Emotional Healing: Rose Quartz speaks directly to the heart chakra, helping to dissolve emotional wounds, fears and resentments by circulating a divine loving energy throughout the entire aura. It carries a soft feminine energy of compassion and peace, tenderness and healing, nourishment and comfort.
Calmness & Centeredness: Rose Quartz nourishes the heart chakra which is stationed at the midpoint of our body’s energetic system. As human beings, we house seven chakras or energy centers that are located along the central line of the body from the base of the spine to the top of our head. There are 3 chakras located above the heart and 3 chakras located below. From an energetic perspective, our heart is akin to the center of a wheel, acting as a focal point for the other chakras which are likened to the spokes of a wheel in this scenario. As we feed the heart chakra, we are feeding our entire body, radiating the love above, below, and throughout our beings.
Self-Love: Rose Quartz promotes self-worth and self-forgiveness, especially for those people who are depressed or self-deprecating, possibly missing the love and nurturing as a child that is vital for the development of a positive self-image. Rose Quartz is the healer for these internal wounds, allowing the heart to accept the infinite source of love that comes from within the self. Only after learning to give love to the self is it possible to truly give love others.
Romantic Relationships: Rose Quartz can help to strengthen the emotional bond between you and your partner, allowing for enhanced communication on a deeper, intuitive level. It will enhance feelings of tenderness and understanding so the partnership can evolve to a higher level. Rose Quartz can help to restore the trust and harmony in relationships, encouraging unconditional love to flow between you and your loved one.
Expressing Yourself: If you or someone you know has difficulty expressing emotions, connecting with others on an emotional level, or consistently acts aloof, distant, & detached, Rose Quartz can help to open their heart so they feel more comfortable expressing themselves. Rose Quartz creates a safe and nurturing environment, allowing one to embrace their feminine side and communicate how they truly feel.
Masculine/Feminine Balance: If someone needs gentle, feminine energy in their life, then working with Rose Quartz can help to stabilize their masculine/feminine balance. It softens the male aggressive energy so it is good for people who want to feel more love and tenderness in their lives. If you know someone who is giving too much of themselves and not replenishing their own inner reservoir, then Rose Quartz can help him/her to invite the feminine receiving energy into his/her life.
Trauma, Crisis, Grief: Due to its calming, reassuring, and nurturing qualities, Rose Quartz offers a comforting energy to those going through times of difficulty. It helps to soothe the emotions as it exudes a blanket of angelic energy that is like an etheric hug from your own higher self, spirit, and soul.
When to Use
If you are feeling depressed, unloved, or unwanted, Rose Quartz can help to lift your spirits and connect you to your core essence which is unconditional love. It will help you to associate with others and express yourself in an authentic manner. If you are engaging in negative self-talk, or condemning yourself for repeated mistakes, take a deep breath and spend some time with Rose Quartz.
Rose Quartz helps to increase our self-awareness which is vital in remembering that we are responsible for ourselves, including the words we speak and the actions we take. In his book, There’s A Spiritual Solution to Every Problem, Wayne Dyer suggests that we view our self-created obstacles in a new perspective by claiming our personal empowerment and contemplating the following statements:
My past wrong-doings are obstacles that I created due to my own lack of awareness. Moving forward, I will not repeat those deeds or treat others with disrespect for I am responsible for my actions, and how I respond to others. As with any problem or obstacle, remind yourself that you created it with one type of mindset, but it needs to be solved with another mindset that is coming from a higher perspective.
This is where Rose Quartz enters the picture. It can aid you in coming from a higher perspective as it helps to raise your vibration for it imbues the energy of love and love is one of the highest vibrations on this planet.
Self-created obstacles will inhibit the natural alignment to your own higher self or spirit which speaks to you through feelings, hunches, and intuitive insights. Working with Rose Quartz can assist you in restoring the connection with your higher self so that you may make decisions from a place of centeredness and balance.
How to Use
- Rose Quartz lamps: You may place a lamp in any room of your house. This is one of my favorite ways to use Rose Quartz. I keep one lamp in my meditation room and one in my bedroom. You can also place a lamp in your children’s bedroom. The lamp will act as a soothing night light and help to calm any anxieties.
- Hold stones during meditations: I hold one stone in each hand while meditating with Rose Quartz. The crystals feel comforting to the palms and the stones may heat up as your meditation progresses.
- While sleeping: Hold a stone in your hand or place under your pillow. This is especially helpful if you have had a taxing day which has left you feeling stressed and emotionally drained.
- Keep stone in pocket: You may place a stone in one or both of your pants pockets and keep them there throughout the day. The stone’s presence will cultivate more calmness and patience in your interactions with others and serve as a reminder of the love you carry inside.
- Wear as jewelry: You may keep Rose Quartz near you at all times by wearing it as a necklace, earrings, bracelet, etc. There are many ways to wear Rose Quartz. You will gravitate towards what your higher self knows is best for you.
Cleaning Your Rose Quartz
When crystals are buried in the earth, they are exposed to earth energies including magnetic and electric energy fields. These energies originate from the inner environment of our planet, the energy grids surrounding our planet, and from energies of the broader Universe, of which our planet Earth is an active member.
In addition to the earth energies, crystals are exposed to human energy fields when they are mined and prepared for public retailers. As the crystals progress through these various stages, they may absorb some of the energies with which they come in contact, both positive and negative.
Therefore, it is important to clean your Rose Quartz upon receiving it and consistently thereafter. The frequency of cleansing will vary depending upon how you use your crystal and how often you are interacting with it. On the safe side, it is a good idea to clean your crystals before and after using them in healing activities. This will maintain the integrity of the crystal so it is in optimal condition for yourself and your clients.
There are almost as many methods for cleansing stones as there are crystals to be cleansed, with different processes that are more suitable for different stones. For rose quartz, there are a variety of methods that will safely cleanse the crystal. I will highlight a few of my favorite methods here.
Bathing the Crystal in Water: Place crystals in a bowl of cold water, avoiding metal vessels. If you soak the rose quartz in cold water you can leave it for up to three days. For salt water, only leave it overnight. I have found that salt water can sometimes be abrasive and cause pitting to the crystal. Therefore, I personally like using pure cold water to clean my crystals.
Smudging: Choose either a sage smudge or incense stick to cleanse the crystal with smoke. Light the incense and allow the smoke to billow and curl around the crystal. Make sure the smoke is able to touch each side or face of the crystal. I typically allow the smoke to billow around the crystal 2-3 times before I am satisfied that it is clean. Your intuition will let you know how long you should smudge the crystal. I personally like to use Nag Champa incense for this purpose.
The Sun and Moon: Place your crystals in a place where they will be fully exposed to the energizing rays of the sun and moon. Even if it is a cloudy day or you cannot see the moon, their rays will invigorate the stones as long as they are directly exposed to these elements of nature. They will normally be cleansed within 24 hours of exposure. The crystals can be cleansed by the sun and moon on a routine basis.
I have included two meditations that will help you to interact with your Rose Quartz crystals. One is a very simple meditation that uses an affirmation to activate your heart center. The other is a guided visualization for those people who enjoy playing with the adventure of their imagination. The visualization incorporates the use of a Rose Quartz lamp.
While sitting in a chair, repeat the following self-love affirmation while holding a Rose Quartz stone in each hand: I open my heart to receive and express the energy of Love. If you say this affirmation out loud, it will be more potent than repeating it silently, but either way will be effective. As an alternative, you may wear a Rose Quartz necklace and place your hands over your heart while repeating the affirmation.
Visualizing the Light
While sitting in a chair, feel your feet grounded on the floor and your crown chakra anchored to your higher self. Feel the calm energy from your Rose Quartz lamp radiating into your heart. Its soft light soothes you with its gentle essence. Reminding you of your own love inside and a greater divine love that is available to you at all times.
Your heart is imbued with this light, sending love to all of your energy chakras. It is flowing throughout your entire body, moving up your shoulders, through your neck, and bathing your head with its comforting presence; it is moving down your body, through your legs, and into your feet. You feel happy and nourished by this energy, giving thanks for its presence so that you may carry it forward into your daily life.
The energy that you now carry within you influences everyone you meet. Perhaps you speak more gently and listen a little more closely. The people with whom you engage feel your sincerity, empowerment, balance and compassion. You speak authentically while maintaining an awareness of others. You are simply being yourself and it feels wonderfully freeing.
Rose Quartz purifies and opens the heart at all levels to promote love, self-love, friendship, deep inner healing and feelings of peace. It provides a rich sense of personal fulfillment as it helps you to remember your core essence and realign to your own innate love.
There are many ways to use Rose Quartz. It is important that you experiment with this crystal to see what method resonates with you. Just as each person is one-of-a-kind, the Rose Quartz crystals will have a unique gift for you once you start to interact with them. There is plenty of documentation regarding the healing capabilities of Rose Quartz, but working directly with this stone will unlock the treasures that are waiting for you specifically.
Your higher self knows what you need to do in order to open your heart, express your emotions, or enhance your current friendships – whatever the reason you may choose to collaborate with Rose Quartz, it will grant your wish when you allow its magical qualities to touch your life.